“Don’t take offense” reminds me that I have a choice. I do not have to be offended because of something someone says or does. I can choose not to be offended.
This is easy to say and hard to do at first, but gets easier with practice. This is easier to do with strangers than with loved ones. But, feeling bad and hurt harms me and I waste so much time worrying about why the other person did or said whatever they did. I am learning that I do not have to take things personally. I can recognize when I am making assumptions and put those aside. The problem with assumptions is that I believe them when they may or may not be true.
Of course there may be times when I need to talk to the other person. God can help me decide if I need to ask questions, to stand up for myself or just to let it go.
When I think that someone may be trying to hurt me, I can decide not to take offense or to retaliate. Such incidents will then vanish away and not leave a mark on me. I do not have to take or accept offense. I can choose to not take things personally.