I came to support groups hoping to learn how to get my loved ones to stop their addictive behaviors and change so I could be happy. I was surprised when the topic was never about my loved ones. The topic was always about me!
I learned that “I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it and I can’t cure it”. When I apply steps and principles to my own life I gain sanity, peace, growth and happiness whether or not my loved ones choose to be free of addictions. I learned to put the focus on myself.
I do not like it when others try to control me or impose their will on me. Why would I expect that I could control anyone else? Why have I tried to impose my will on others? I can control only me and I am responsible for me. I am the only one who can make my life happy, full and beautiful.