The first part of serving others is to listen to myself and my needs. I cannot give anyone something that I do not have. Am I taking care of myself today?
I used to think that taking care of me was selfish. I gave and gave, and tried to be and do what others wanted until I was exhausted. My life really was insanity because I was so tired. I could not think straight and I was always worrying, anxious and fearful. When I finally listened to a friend and attended a 12 step support group, I heard that the 1st step is to recognize that my life is unmanageable.
I learned that I am not being selfish when I go to support meetings, exercise, ask for help, eat right, get enough sleep, take time to read my scriptures and pray, rest, examine my behavior and take action to correct it, and share myself with others. When I pay attention to what I need I am not being selfish. As I take care of myself, I gain strength, power and wisdom to know when and how to serve and help others.