“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.
What is Serenity?
What is serenity? Serenity is not freedom from chaos, hardship or trials. Serenity comes from God. It is the feeling I get when I am seeking God, trying to do His will and trying to follow Christ. It can be there amid chaos, hardship and trials or even when these things worsen.
What are the things I cannot change?
What are the things I cannot change? The things I cannot change are other people, places and things. Most often I need to “mind my own business”.
What can I change?
What are the things I can change? When I remember to “mind my own business”, I remember that my own business is myself. I am the only person I can change. I can get to know myself – what I like and don’t like, what I like to do, what I care about, what I want to learn and how I want to grow. When I take care of myself, I make sure I’m eating right and getting enough sleep and exercise. I can take time to create, write, dance, sing, make music or whatever helps me to feel alive. My own responsibilities take time and I can let others handle (or not handle) their own. I can develop and work on my relationships with God, with my family members, with those in my support group and others. It is full time work to take care of myself – to change the things I can!
How can I know the difference?
What is wisdom to know the difference? I think part of that is realizing that there are some things that I could change, but that I should not change. God will help me to know what to change, how to make things better, what to get rid of and what to add. Sometimes I forget that I cannot change other people and interfere too much in their lives. This prayer helps me remember to focus on myself.