What if questions make me fearful worried and anxious.
“What if…” Too often I have said or thought these two little words that bring such fear, worry and anxiety into my life. What if my loved ones slip up again? My loved one could spend all our money and then we could not pay our bills! What if my loved one loses his job? What if my loved ones don’t come home? What if my loved one doesn’t take care of the children while I am gone? My imagination can think of lots of things to fill in the blank.
Yes, all these things could possibly happen, but they probably won’t. I am filling myself with lots of dread and am putting myself through needless suffering. Fear, worry and anxiety keep me in the past and future so I do not enjoy the present. They will not prepare me for these things if they do happen. I cannot do anything about things that have not happened.
I cannot see the future. Just because something may have happened in the past does not mean it will happen today or in the future. I can live “one day at a time” and be grateful and happy today. I can handle things as they come along.
Sometimes I ask a lot of “Why?” questions. Why do the people around me have addictions? Why have I been dealt the life and circumstances that I have? Why did my friend or loved one die? Why do I have to deal with all this crazy making behavior? Why do I or someone I love have health problems? Etc. etc. etc.
But, why not me? Other people have problems and trials and hard times so why should I never have them? I’ve heard it said that “Why? is not a spiritual question”. I am not accepting “life on life’s terms” when I ask “Why?” I am dropping back into my victim mentality when I ask “Why me?” and I don’t want to go back there!
Heavenly Father loves me and wants me to grow. I know He won’t give me more than I can handle with His help. I can ask “What do I need to learn from this?” instead of asking “Why me?” When I take responsibility for myself, I am refusing to be a victim. “Any question that starts with the word ‘why’ helps me to know there is something I need to accept”.