I used to think that I was a bad person because my loved one was not happy. I was continually trying to be perfect, but I failed over and over and my loved one would often get angry with me. If only I could do the “right” things then we would be happy. As I attended support group meetings, I realized that I am not a bad person, I am just human.
I think that we all do the best we can with where we are at each moment. Sometimes those around me hurt me and behave in negative ways. I often make mistakes! But I am not bad and neither are they.
If I can separate behaviors from people, I can live and interact from a more peaceful loving place. We all have values and beliefs that may or may not be based on truth. I am continually learning and replacing my values and beliefs. As I seek to be close to God, I will continue to learn and my values and beliefs will become nearer and nearer to the truth.