Expectations cause frustration.
One subtle source of my frustrations is expecting things of others. Some of my expectations I easily recognize. Other expectations I don’t even realize I have until someone fails to meet them.
Sometimes I say “They knew what I expected!” But, that may be precisely why they acted the way they did. The saying “Expectations are pre-meditated resentments” helps me to realize that I need to let go of my expectation and let others live their own lives. Besides letting others live without the added guilt of my expectation, I get to live with less frustration, anger and resentment.
As I realize that I often fail to live up to others expectation I can let go of my own expectation more easily. I can have added peace as I give up expectation and relax into acceptance.
Expectation = Resentment.
“An expectation is a premeditated resentment”. “Resentments can be cured by gratitude”. “When I feel anger, resentment or fear, I ask God to help me feel it, learn from it, and release it”. “Resentments, self-righteousness and self-pity always come through”. “Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim”.
It is taking me awhile to let go of being a victim. I do not consciously think of myself as a victim. But, as I learn from reading and from support groups, I realize that I do think and act like I am a victim of my circumstances and have no choices. This is an attitude that is deeply ingrained and affects all areas of my life.
I did not want my resentments anymore but had no idea how to get rid of them! When I realized that my resentments were not necessary and really did not protect me from the people around me or from my circumstances, I was ready to let them go. The sayings above and the atonement of Jesus Christ are helping me to slowly root out my resentments and my victim attitude.
I have choices and I can choose to dream and do and become. Today I choose to let go of resentments. I am not a victim! A creative and loving God is my father. I can choose to be grateful, creative, loving and happy.