Or wise decisions?
I used to make decisions by reacting to my confusion, anger or fear. These do not make a good base for decision making! My life was out of control.
I’m learning in support groups that I don’t have to make a decision right this second, or when I’m feeling intense emotions. I can say “Let me think about that” or “I will get back to you on that”. If I say something I later regret I can go back and say “I made a mistake, this is what I really want to do”.
I am learning that emotions are natural and human. It is OK to feel feelings, to go through them, then to let them go. To help me deal with my emotions I can talk to a trusted friend, write in my journal or go for a walk or swim. I can calmly weigh the pros and cons of a matter. I can pray for guidance and inspiration.
No one is perfect and today I still don’t make decisions perfectly. But, I can give myself more time to think about things. When I give myself permission to take risks and realize I don’t have to do things perfectly I feel less stress. If something is worth doing, I might do it badly at first while I am learning to do it, and that is OK. I can make good decisions. My self-confidence is growing.
What can I do?
I make mistakes every day! Some mistakes seem to be bigger than others. But, I know that my intentions are good. I am doing the best that I can with where I am at and with the knowledge that I have. I worry that others will judge me and think badly of me, but I have no control over others. What can I do?
Other people make mistakes everyday too. I do have control over my own reactions and thoughts. I can give others the benefit of the doubt and think well of them. Others are doing the best that they can with where they are at and with the knowledge they have. Who can I forgive or show mercy to today?
I can analyze my behavior and thoughts and make amends or changes quickly when needed. I can stop worrying about what others think about me since I can do nothing about that anyway. Worry and stress will only hurt me and will never solve problem. What can I do better today than yesterday?
If I am angry, worried, stressed or anxious I can stop and do something to take care of myself. I can write it all out and let it go. I can talk to a trusted person and hear their ideas. When I do something physical like going for a walk or exercising it helps to relieve stress. I can pray and tell my Father how I am feeling and ask for His help. I can ask for a blessing. What can I do to take care of myself today?
I choose God.
I was lamenting and complaining to my son about how easy it is to create bad habits. And it is so hard it is to break them. It is hard to choose to create good habits and easy to stop them. Why is that?!
Maybe making good habits is hard because we live in a mortal world and that is just the way it is here. My son listened to me and then responded that he thinks it is because we need to consciously and consistently turn to God.
After I thought about what he said, I realized that he is right. I won’t get to return to live with God by accident. I have to look at and turn to the good, turn towards God. The choices I make every day, every hour, every minute determine whether I am turning to God or not. I choose God.