I need a quiet time every day. When I include prayer, meditation and scripture reading in my quiet time my whole day goes better. I am better able to handle the crazy making and angry explosions that often occur when living with loved ones with addictions.
If my quiet time includes any anger or hostility at all, then my quiet time loses it power and does me no good. My best quiet times include serenity, peace and acceptance. I have to remind myself of this especially during times of stress.
If an angry explosion from my loved ones seems to be aimed at me, it helps me to remember that they may just be expressing their own guilt and dissatisfaction. When I choose not to be hurt I do not take it upon my own shoulders. I can choose to be quiet in serenity, peace and acceptance. I will not allow myself to give up my serenity and peace because someone else is angry.