Knowledge is Power Continued

Knowledge is power 3.

Addiction loses it’s power as you learn about it. Knowledge is power.

Pornography almost always leads to thinking of women, children, young men etc, as objects rather than people with thoughts and feelings.

Addicts withdraw and are preoccupied. They think they are acting the same, but relationships deteriorate and the spouse often feels like their partner is far away emotionally and that something is wrong.

Addicts often talk down to the loved ones in their family and look at them as objects. This can lead to mental and emotional and even physical abuse. The addict can be critical of everything their partner does, says and is. The spouse will react in different ways depending on their personality. The spouse may react with anger and loud arguments can occur. They may believe what the addict is saying and their self-esteem will go down. They may try and do everything right and be perfect – but that is impossible. They may feel like they are always walking on eggs. They may try to control everything and everyone around them and be hard to live with. They begin to feel hopeless and helpless and that their life is unmanageable.

The addict’s behaviors impact everyone around them. Spouses may experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder including fatigue, depression, sleeplessness, confusion, indecisiveness, loss of appetite or over-eating, shock, denial, and anger. This can lead to a downward cycle of feeling fear, anxiety, shame, and obsessing over the addict’s addiction.

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Knowledge is Power Continued

Knowledge is power 2.

Addiction loses it’s power as you learn about it. Knowledge is power.

Addiction causes changes in the brain. Research is showing that viewing pornography can lead to a lifelong addiction that can be more difficult to overcome than addictions to drugs, alcohol or tobacco.

Studies have shown that pornography addiction leads to the same brain activity as alcoholism or drug abuse. Brain shrinkage has been documented in people addicted to pornography. Pornography can damage the brain just like drugs do.

We all have a thinking brain and a feeling brain (or survival brain). This is normal and they work together.

When an addiction develops, the part of the brain that controls the feeling brain (survival) takes over and is convinced that it needs the substance (drugs, alcohol, pornography) in order to survive. The feeling brain sets up extremely strong cravings to push us to get what it feels we need. Addictions end up taking away the addict’s freedom.

Freedom is taken away because with an addiction, the feeling brain gains control over the thinking brain. The feeling brain wants instant gratification – getting what it wants right now even if it can hurt you now or later on. Pathways are developed in the brain that are extremely difficult to break out of. When there is an addiction these pathways cause strong out of control cravings. Guilt – which is normal and from God helps us decide to change and return to God. But, often in an addiction, guilt turns to shame – which tells you that you are bad and cannot change.

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Knowledge is power

Knowledge is power. Addiction loses it’s power as you learn about it.

I’ve found it helpful to learn about pornography and addiction. Learning about addiction has helped me to have more compassion for my loved ones and has also given me hope that they can overcome this evil. This knowledge has given me hope that we can teach ourselves and those we love how to stay pure and clean even with the increasing evil in our world.

Pornography and addictions are hard subjects to talk about. I’d rather not think about them, much less discuss them. But, we live in a world where pornography is everywhere. Adults are addicted to pornography and children and teens are growing up addicted to pornography. None of us can afford to turn our backs to this. Having an internet filter is not enough – we must teach ourselves and others to have internal filters. We must talk about pornography in our families and teach ourselves and others what to do WHEN we are exposed to pornography. This knowledge makes pornography not a bad word, but an evil that we can fight.

What is pornography? Pornography is sexually explicit material that is intended primarily for sexual arousal. Pornography may include pictures in books, magazines, video games, and images on the Internet or your phone. It may also include lyrics in songs, movies and inappropriate conversations.

Pornography can lead to addiction just as cigarettes, alcohol and drugs can.

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Writing was the start of healing

Writing heals

I used to feel so guilty about my past. I have made so many mistakes. I have let so many people down especially myself and my children. I thought of myself as weak and useless and sinful. I had low self-esteem and didn’t think of myself as a very good person. Writing was the start of my healing.

I wrote down all my resentments and everything I could remember in my life that was negative. I also wrote down all the positive things in my life that I could remember. After I finished writing everything down I shared it with someone I trusted. Amazingly, the person I shared it with didn’t hate me after I told them about my past. I was able to realize that I was doing the best that I could in my life at the time.

This exercise has been amazing and eye-opening. Writing has helped me to forgive myself and to not feel guilty about my past. As I forgave myself I began to accept and even love myself. I am able to see some of my good qualities. Peace and wellbeing are replacing the guilt and fear that used to be my constant companions. My self-confidence is growing.